A Game Called L.O.V.E

Recently, one of my best friend just broke the news to me that her younger brother had just broken up with his girlfriend of one and a half years. She said he was totally devastated and locked himself in his room for days. After hearing that, first thing that came through my mind was. Yeah, just another puppy love gone bad story. I know that may sound mean but it's reality!

When we were kids, we used to read fairy tales and bed time stories where the endings are always, "......and so the price and the princess live happily after". And then when it comes to high school, we start having fantasies of dating the cutest guy in school and becoming the "popular couple in school". And then there goes the first love which started off so sweet but yet hurt so badly in the end.

At 22, I do consider myself to be a person who have seen alot, hear alot, and of cause personally experienced the many phases of relationships as well as the sweet and sour thing called love.

Love to me back then was just a simple theory whereby if you're happy you stay and if you're not you leave. Love to me now is something so powerful yet so complicated. It is something you may want so badly but yet at the time may fear so badly.

Our parents often advise us not to get into serious relationship unless we have a stable life. I never understand why they say things so discouraging like this but now that I have personally came across friends with relationship complications such as long distance relationship, third party affair, pre-marital sex relationship, one night stand, homosexual relationship etc. I'm starting to get the full picture of this dangerous game.

I know that I may not be someone in a position to comment too much about relationship failures because I was a failure myself. But looking on the bright side, there is often something good out of every failed relationship. One may learn to be stronger, braver, wiser and to appreciate every moment with friends and families. And as for me one of the best outcome was that I came to know the Lord Jesus Christ after a failed relationship of two and a half years. Thanks to my best friend, Esther who brought me to church after the whole breakup which left me hopeless and broken.

The Word of God says in Isaiah 53:4-5:

"Surely He has borne our griefs
And carried our sorrows;
Yet we esteemed Him stricken,
Smitten by God, and afflicted.
But He was wounded for our transgressions,
He was bruised for our iniquities;
The chastisement for our peace was upon Him,
And by His stripes we are healed."

In conclusion, learn to love but yet at the same time learn to grow.