My Child is Not A Blessing from God!

Today is the third day of Chinese New Year and as usual I will tag along my grandma and aunts to visit some relative. However, during the visit to one of my relative which supposedly is my grandpa's brother's wife, I came across a stunning family story. Mind you guys I wasn't kepo-ing, I was just sitting at the corner being a spectator to the whole story telling scene.

Alright the story goes like this,

My Grandpa's Brother's Son was married twice in his life (He is around 50+) now, His first wife divorced him after cheating his money, they were childless back then. And then there was the second wife which came along after the divorce, this time the new wife was not a blessing to the family instead she is the kind which thinks her husband is a millionaire and spend like there is no tomorrow, her mindset is "as long as there is credit card, nothing is a problem". Well as for the husband, all this poor man can do is to give in to whatever the wife requested including buying car even before paying off the old car's loan and buying properties in oversea. Oh yeah and the husband is only an employee which earn 4k a month.


Okay, let me get to the main point of the story. Shortly after the marriage to the second wife, the wife knowing she is infertile went to JB and found some syndicate which sell foreign children and adopted an Indonesian baby girl which was only 10 days old. Yes, illegally and paid a sum of 18k WITHOUT the knowing of the husband and the entire family.

She even borrowed a sum of money from some relative to buy the baby girl. When she returned home, the husband and in laws were shocked to find an Indonesian child with them. By then it was too late to return the child, so the couple had no choice but to name the child as their own and take care of her.

As days go by, the mother brought up the child in a totally wrong way, she loved the child so much she spoiled her and taught the child no manners at all. The mother told the child that the ah ma (dad's side) is bad whereas the mother side' is good, she was trying to brainwash the child. Besides that, the child was rude, rebellious and not to mention naughty. There was even once when the dad asked if she could share the food with him, she swallowed all the food and looked away. The mother spent around 600 a month on this child including all the unnecessary expenses.

Let me go straight to the point, recently the parents wanted to help the child to apply for passport and the officers in the immigration department suspected something amiss of the child as she was "black" and looked abit like a "native" whereas both parents are pure Chinese and white! And that's when all the drama starts occurring, the government then started sending warning letters insisting that the child undergo DNA testing to verify her origin.

On the other hand, the mother could not care more for everything that was happening because she "pushed the entire responsibility to the husband" like she has nothing to do with it, nonetheless the husband had to find a way to settle the problem so he spent 10k on hiring a lawyer and settling the court procedures. He even resulted to find some "datuk" with authority to settle the problem but with no success. While the husband is cracking his head and wallet in finding a way to solve the lawsuit, the wife only thinks of spending more money on unnecessary things such as buying shares and bonds as though the husband's problem is not hers.

After hearing the whole story, I just can't help thinking that can I consider the husband a man too real to be good or just plain stupidity? I felt pity for the man because he is just trying to clean up whatever mess the wife has left behind maybe because he is a caring and responsible man. It is also undeniable that the child may not be of their own heritage but then the child is innocent and I feel she deserve a mother which is more responsible and that she could have been a better child if she was brought up the right way. But I sincerely hope that the whole issue could be resolve as soon as possible because this will definitely affect the welfare of the poor child and the happiness of the entire family. Hope that God will be with them and see them thru this hard time. :)

Crash Crash Boom!!!

Geeez, unlucky unlucky me in this Chinese New Year! My laptop is crashing and I am leaving on thursday night? What can I do?!?!?!?! I bet the Dell fellas will only resume work on Wed and I don't even know if they will send someone to fix this problem on time. Luckily my warranty is extended to internationally. I made a terrible mistake shouldn't have reformat my laptop when it's going alright, now I am stucked with even more problems after reformating. I ran test and it's definitely not the hardware problem, so that means its the software problem! I absolutely need help. Can anyone please provide me with suggestions? Thanks alot ;)

The Everyday "Why"?

I don't know why my mood swings are back lately, probably due to overworking myself to fulfil my obligations and responsibilities. I am seriously starting to feel the exhaustion. I don't think I have really relaxed and chilled ever since working in December. I am starting to wonder when will I really get to have my own space and just stop thinkin for a moment.

Today, we had a K session at Neway Cheras with a couple of my close friends and Esther managed to meet up Sean a.k.a Char Siew Pau. Everything went well and glad I get to hang out with my friends and this will probably be my last K session in Malaysia for this year.

On the other hand, I am personally experiencing alot of drama in my life as well as around me. To me all this drama has just been part of the daily routine, whereby people get frustrated, upset, disappointed, ignorance and then a sequence of event which led to the whole "eruption" of emotions.

I have to admit I still have some conflict going on in my mind right now but I don't think I am ready to deal with it.

As for others out there with conflicts in your life whether it is personal, relationship, workwise, studies or friendship, remember that the real conflict is not the problem itself but is the knot that you need to untangle before you face the problem. Well, I sincerely hope that all those conflicts can be resolved before Chinese New Year, after all it's not really good to have an angry face for such a happy festival, right?

I. Am. Elaine

I didn't know that leaving my blog idle would create such an impact to my "followers". Apparently, some of my friends said they got fed up of checking my blog because there is always no latest updates. Is this good or not? Well, I replied my plan is to give a surprise at unexpected times. To create the suspense that will thrill my readers.. Alright, let's not get to carried away.

Last night, I met up with a bunch of old buddies, the MBSians. Thanks you guys for making an effort to meet up wit me despite the working and study weekdays. And thanks for accompanying me through the night because of my hyperactiveness. And the night before, my best friend Esther and her gang threw me a farewell dinner at Elixir. Do check out my facebook for more picture as I will upload them soon.

Basically my whole week was to meet up with as many friends as I could to catch up with old times before my departure. I tried my very best to bid my farewell to all my close buddies. However, as for some which I did not manage to meet up I apologize for "ffk"ing because I am really caught up with my schedule.


Oh yeah, please dont be surprise to see an emotional post because it's totally part of the plan to spice up my blog! Hahaha, but always remember I am Elaine! I am happy-go-lucky!

Love you all my friends ;) Stay tune for more posts!

不要梦，也不要想

I'm not supposed to love you, I'm not supposed to care, I'm not supposed to live my life wishing you were there. I'm not supposed to wonder where you are or what you do...I'm sorry I can't help myself, I'm think I'm in love with you.

...But trust me I am trying my best to shake this thought off. Just give me some time.

New year New Look!

Alright, like we all know chinese new year is just around the corner and everyone is busy preparing..LITERALLY EVERYONE except ME! So I woke up to a reckless decision, I wanna be different too! I am deciding to dye my hair red! Okay, not that bloody red but blondy red. Can't imagine huh? Well tune in for more pictures of my new look to see how weird I may look.